I’m going to start off on a bit of a tangent and with a general statement - my passion for real estate has made me a better person. I will say that success in anything really depends on how good of a person you are. If you’re a shitty person, you’ll be a shitty business person. Now this isn’t ALWAYS the case, there are always exceptions to the rule, but on the whole, I’ve found this to be true.
So, when my passion for real estate was first realized, I knew very little about business, being an entrepreneur, and about the true value of relationships and having a relational approach to life. Though I enjoyed giving, I never gave enough. When I first started in real estate, I had no intentions of truly giving, but was focused mainly on what I could gain financially. I wanted to make money for my future, for my family, for my business partner - I wanted to be successful because I am competitive and because I wanted to succeed. But this never is enough.
As a Realtor and investor, I did not start seeing positive strides in either business until I discovered the value in giving. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t completely self-centered and self-involved, I do enjoy giving, and always have, I just never did it enough or for the right reasons.
When I began training with my first brokerage as a real estate agent I was compelled to try anything necessary to grow - even things I had never taken seriously in the past - namely self-improvement programs. One of the main reasons I was compelled was because my managing broker made it mandatory. :) I was on board to do it because I was passionate about pursuing real estate and I was on board to jump-start my career; it was not necessarily for the self-improvement but to appease my boss. After all, why did I need help? I was great just the way I was!
The reality of it is, we are all great, or have potential for greatness, and should never stop sharpening and honing that potential. A knife, when sharp, will slice through a tomato easily and with great accuracy, but that same knife, if not sharpened frequently, will have a difficult time cutting through that same tomato. I have discovered that one’s character is much the same.
As I went through this self-improvement program, which took about 3 months initially, and subsequently read several other books under the same category, I have grown to discover and realize a common theme and fundamental verity between all that these people have to say: happiness, quality of life, and SUCCESS, are all ultimately contingent on who you are - YOUR CHARACTER - not what you do. Every single author, lecturer, writer, motivational speaker, etc. of any credibility or worth, has the same fundamental verity in what they’re saying, regardless of industry or profession, and that is - character is the foundation for success.
Be a good person and good things will happen. Before one can focus on making money, one must first focus on having integrity, being fair, being honest, and acting with dignity & respect.
I’m starting to sound like a self-righteous asshole and I apologize. It’s just so been so important for me to realize this, to act on it, and to strive to develop my character. I wish everyone, if they haven't already, would spend some time out of their comfort zone, exploring things that they think they don't need or would be a waste of time, and I'm quite certain they would be pleasantly surprised. Life, truly, becomes more enriching when perceived from this perspective. It’s more enjoyable and it really just feels good.
In summary, my passion for real estate and wanting to be successful drove me to care about who I am as a person, and if I could vastly improve that person I was, if it would give me a better chance at being successful, I would do it. It has changed and IMPROVED my life to such a degree that I now have not only a passion for success in real estate, but for constantly sharpening and improving my character as a means of being a better person in general.